A widower with eight children and his high school sweetheart, a widow with ten of her own, cross paths in the Paramount Pictures picture “Yours, Mine & Ours.” The two fall in love again and are married without telling their kids until after the wedding. There is a cultural mismatch, and the children quickly come up with a scheme to ruin the marriage.
Despite being a comedy, “Yours, Mine & Ours” touches on some of the challenges stepparents and kids face in the real world. Bringing two families together is rarely simple; according to figures from the U.S. Census Bureau, 60 percent of remarriages result in divorce and roughly 65 percent of them involve children from the prior union.
Parents have the power to make sure that their children understand that their new siblings as well as their own parents love and desire them. Creating a sense of inclusion for all the kids will support a smooth transition. The following advice is given by parenting experts:
* Be adaptable. Families operate in various ways, so your newly merged family will have to compromise on everything from picking family activities to setting bedtimes. Be prepared to let go of some bad habits.
* Establish new guidelines. With your new spouse, go over your parenting philosophy and plan the parenting approach that will work best for your new family.
* Allow for communication to flow. Participate the kids in family choices. Pay attention to what they have to say and consider their worries.
* Look for original ways to strengthen family ties. Have a discussion about what activities the family would like to engage in regularly. You could be surprised by the concepts that surface.
* Don’t lose your humour. Even while family mixing is a serious and occasionally touchy issue, it might be helpful to consider its lighter side. Even younger kids might be able to identify with the emotions and antics depicted in “Yours, Mine & Ours.” Be patient if things don’t initially go as planned. Your new family will only get stronger over time with lots of love, support, and respect.